You Are Enough:
"Your perfect imperfections make you perfect as can be, if we were all perfectly perfect there would be no you, or me."
May is #MentalHealthAwareness month. For anyone who keeps up with 'The Logans' twitter (you can find it here), you'll know that mental health is a subject that we are passionate about and discuss often with our Loganators. There are so many things that can be discussed under this title, however, in an era of social media overload, one thing that seems to rear its head time and time again is self love. This self love is based on the idea that you alone are enough, and is vital in order for mental health and wellbeing to flourish.
Do We Need to be Someone Else?
Have you ever thought about the constant struggle we all face, trying to become a better 'me' or just trying to become someone else? Are you ever just you? I'm sure at least one person in your life has told you to try to be like your idol, or to push yourself to become a better version of yourself- Is that self-love?
Comparison = Conflict
As a band, my sisters and I are trying to navigate our way through an industry that can focus on what you lack rather than what you have, and there have been times when I've found myself asking, 'am I enough?' In an industry like this, there are 1million ways my sisters and I can compare ourselves to someone else- are we cool enough, young enough, pretty enough, talented enough? When you're in this mindset, you just find yourself frustrated, exhausted, and lacking inspiration. How stifling is that for creativity and happiness? How can we love ourselves when we’re convinced there is someone better to be? Comparing ourselves to someone else is a sure way to be unhappy and stay that way. Comparison is competition- you are competing with the image of someone or something you think you need to be. Competition means that in the end you have to have a winner and a loser, someone has to be crushed in order for someone else to gain, and this is what we do to ourselves every time we want to be someone else! We are telling ourselves that we are not enough and it crushes us.
There is nothing loving about saying “you’re ok, but i’d like you more if you were skinnier, funnier, prettier”. There is nothing loving about wishing to be someone or something else.
Is it not so simple when you put it that way? Trying to be someone or something else means that you have to dislike who you are now. It means that every time you look at that model or actress on TV and want to be her, you simultaneously have to insult yourself. That is not, and never will be loving.
The only person in the world that you can make happy is you- not future you, you NOW- and that has to start on the premise that you are enough.
The only thing that we can offer ourselves is understanding. Watch how you feel when you see that ad on the TV that makes you want to go lose weight, earn more money, or find your soul mate. Don’t judge it, just watch. How does it make you feel? No feeling is right or wrong, just watch.
This awareness is not effort. It’s effortless, it’s just being, and this state of being is an act of self love. No running or judging, just loving yourself. When we are in this state, this is when true, authentic change happens. In the words of Carl Rogers: “The curious paradox is, when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change”. The more we are aware and accept what we are, the more we evolve into what we always have been- whole.
Every little thing that makes you, you, is perfect for your purpose- and we all have a unique purpose! Don’t hate the challenges or the down days that come to you, they have something to teach you that will lead you to where you are meant to be. You don’t need to change any of it to become whole. It’s all inside you right now, you just have to remember who you are.
You are whole. You are loved. You are perfect. You are beautiful.
YOU ARE ENOUGH.
Today I want you to look in the mirror and find one thing that you love about yourself, not the 100 things that you don't love, but just one thing that you do love. Don't leave the mirror without finding that one thing. Look at yourself, smile, and know that is being enough, and enough is all we need.